Discover Good Relationship Tips and Love Advice to Help You Easily Create the Long Lasting Partnership of Your Dreams.

A good relationship needs to be based on a strong foundation to weather the day to day pressures in modern society. Are you confident there is trust, respect and continued admiration in your relationship? Is your’s a good relationship? Does being together provide you with that warm, safe and contented feeling? Have you continued relationship building with your partner? Are you able to freely discuss anything and everything?

Here are 8 questions which will help you identify any potential cracks in your relationship, along with easy solutions to fix them.

Do you communicate easily and openly?

Can you agree to disagree? If discussion leads to argument you need to learn some new skills to improve your confidence and self esteem. Having these qualities make it easier to accept without fear the opinions of others. All of us have differing views and that is what makes life interesting. Just imagine how boring life might become if you were mental clones of each other. Think of the fun we have with our friends in discussing sport, politics, economics, humankind and even religion. Differing views can be both challenging and stimulating but in the end the views someone else holds are just that –their views, and you have a choice to be influenced by them or not.  A lasting relationship thrives on contrast.

Is there something you can’t discuss with your partner?

If certain subjects cause anger or frustration, then you really need to learn to discuss them. Being able to bring those dark issues into the light is a sign of a healthy relationship. Sometimes there are troubling problems that may need coaxing out of hiding. But a strong relationship can be made stronger by exposing fears that often turn out to be less fearful than we expected.          

Do you know your partner’s needs?

We all have basic needs such as food, shelter, warmth, companionship and life purpose. Then there is the next layer of needs such as a kind word of appreciation, a touch, a hug, a sharing of emotions. Sometimes we forget what we want and need, but expect our partner to know and act accordingly. Then if this doesn’t occur, we feel resentment when these needs are not met. First, know your needs. Then discuss them with your partner. Or write a gentle love note telling your partner. A good relationship requires that as your needs are being met, for you to make sure you reciprocate.

Do you know your partner’s likes and dislikes?

When you meet that special someone for the first time you can often spend hours and hours talking about each other’s likes and dislikes. You learn all that you can about the other person so that a serious relationship may develop. You buy presents, write love notes, share sporting activities, dine together, go to movies, share thoughts and fears. You build a happy relationship. But as time goes by, it can be easy to become complacent and less aware. Work and children may intrude. Sometimes you do things for yourself and forget your partner. Perhaps complacency intrudes and you take each other for granted. The relationship becomes strained.

And this takes us back to the major factor in any relationship…communication.

You, like most of us, may need time out, your personal space and some of your likes and dislikes will cause disagreement and strain with your partner.

Communication, communication, communication with a little compromise thrown in is the recipe to help sort out most of these difficulties.

Are you often angry with each other?

Anger is a relationship killer. Are there angry outbursts in your relationship? If you are feeling angry analyse why. What brings the anger to a boil? Are you constantly simmering with resent? What causes you to explode? If your partner is the volcano, what is setting it off? Sometimes anger comes from another source such as work or family interactions. Finances, neighbours, other people, politicians, bad drivers, rude shopkeepers…there is an endless list of frustrations in modern society, but taking it out on your partner is not acceptable.

There are cultural behaviours to consider….some folk release frustration with a spontaneous angry outburst and then are calm. Others simmer and simmer and are a wonder to behold when they explode.

The best solution to quickly quench anger is being calm  and sympathetic. 

“I know just how you feel Sweetheart , but just think how lucky we are with……”

“Let’s take the dog/kids/cat for a walk.”

“Let’s take a wine out on the patio and look at the stars.”

If the anger comes from something your partner does or doesn’t, talk about it. If you know what you don’t want, then it is easy to know what you do want.

Part of relationship building is to let your partner know in a calm and loving way what you think and feel and for you to reciprocate. More.

Do you spend quality time together?

There is often a lack of time for two people to just be together. There are constant demands from others; children, parents, family members, friends, work, government. There are all those jobs that need doing, there’s shopping and there’s the news, TV, the latest reality show…so many distractions that somehow quality time with your partner just doesn’t happen.

To have a long lasting and happy relationship, you must find some time to be together. A morning stroll, an evening saunter, a coffee at a quiet cafe…just make an effort to have time together and reap the rewards.

Do you share financial responsibility?

For a relationship to prosper, both of you must share responsibility. Many relationships have crumbled under financial stress. A situation where one controls the purse strings leads to tension and resent. The person not in charge may feel controlled and become totally dependent on the other. This does not make for a happy relationship.

Financial roles do not have to be duplicated. One of you can do the necessary paperwork and balancing but allocation of resources and budgeting has to be shared. The days of the past when the man of the house controlled all finances are gone.

When both of you feel empowered your relationship will be strong and lasting.  

How’s your sex life?

Speaking of rewards, is your sex life all it could be? Sex is a vital part in how to have a good relationship and if this area is a source of frustration, a happy relationship will be a difficult prospect.

Humans are raised in diverse ways and finding common ground in this area is critical. Again, you must talk about your needs and sometimes professional help may be required. Talking about such an intimate subject as sex means telling the truth and this alone will bring you closer together.

Communication, communication, communication with a little compromise thrown in is the guaranteed recipe to ensure a long lasting, joyful and good relationship.

If you’ve been together for a while and the passion and romance in your relationship is fading then try these fun and easy ways to reignite passion and get your lost love back.

1. Share a bath

One of the best ways to relax and unwind after a long, hard day is to soak in a deliciously warm bath. Just the act of sliding into the warm water and feeling the sensation on your bare skin is enough to start relaxing your nervous system. So instead of making this a solitary sensation, invite your partner along to share this experience. Sharing a bath and being able to relax together is a great way to shut out distractions from TV, phones, computers and even the kids. A soapy back massage is very liberating. One couple I know used this thirty plus minute bath time regularly to escape the demands of their children, restore lost love and to re-establish bonds of intimacy that can get lost when dealing with careers and family. One twist on this idea is to bring along a large bowl of ice cream and one spoon. It can be very sensual to feed each other something cold in a hot bath.

2a. Go to bed at the same time

If, as is common, you and your partner’s body clocks are on different time zones, and you seldom awake in bed together, then the chances of making love are close to zero. So make a conscious choice to communicate better over bedtimes. Instead of saying ‘I’m going to bed now’ and hoping that your partner will follow, invite them to come to bed with you. Instead of watching any old rubbish on TV until you’re tired enough to sleep, come upstairs for a cuddle and drift off in each other’s arms. Skip jobs such as washing the dishes or checking emails before going upstairs or you’ll miss the window when your partner is still awake. If you have radically different bedtimes, try finding a compromise, where some days you go to bed a little earlier and your partner stays awake a little longer.

2b. Enjoy a lie-in together.

You can co-ordinate your different go to bed times so that you wake together. Most of us have a certain number of sleep hours our body requires. Waking together and cuddling is a great way to restore lost love.

Also on the weekend give yourself a treat and enjoy a more intimate lie-in together. Try snuggling, his front to your back with his arms around you and co-ordinate breathing. This is simultaneously very relaxing and very sensual.

3. Look at each other more

When talking, couples in love spend a large percent of their time looking directly at each other. As time goes by, we tend to let our minds wander. We think about the mundane necessary functions of living, meetings, jobs to be done, appointments to be kept…eye contact becomes less frequent, even when communicating something important. In fact, our rate of looking into each other’s eyes drops as low as thirty percent of the time. We are prone to miss the subtleties of body language and misinterpret each other’s tone of voice.

While good eye contact makes you seem attentive and sincere, poor eye contact makes your partner think you are talking at them rather than to them. So, at the very least, make a commitment to be in the same room rather than shouting up the stairs.

4. Add some humor

Nothing counters lost love better than fun and playfulness. We often expect our partners to be what we want them to be and not what they are. Anger, resent, nagging, withdrawal all can be countered by simple things such as code names for certain behaviours. The Cookie Monster could be for when your partner forgets to share …. Miss Two Shoes for being judgemental or unforgiving. In the right tone, with a smile, this can be a playful way to keep each other in check when we stray off the rails. Write your love a poem. It can be simple and fun and shows her that she is in your thoughts.

When we love each other just the way we are, we can be free to be who we are without pretense, anxiety or shame. Lost love is a subtle process that can be reversed.

I've found these fun and simple ways to make your girlfriend happy always work. And they can turn your time together from dull into desirable.

1. Buy something small but with thought attached. This will make your girlfriend happy.

It could be her favourite bar of chocolate or a beautiful red rose or a card with a romantic poem. A present shows that you're thinking about her even when apart. At Christmas or birthdays, you tend to buy gifts that you think your girlfriend needs.  Demonstrating  spontaneous, appreciative  behaviour -where flowers and gifts are not just for birthdays but "because I saw these and thought of you" is a great way to make your girlfriend happy. These small unexpected gifts are pure fun and indulgence. 

2. Kiss your girlfriend with your eyes open.

Actually looking at each other when you kiss is incredibly intimate and can also be the gateway to more erotic love making. Some couples find the idea silly or feel uncomfortable looking at each other. They believe it is more romantic to keep their eyes closed, but this makes you concentrate on the sensation rather than the person. By kissing with your eyes closed it can be easy to get lost in your own fantasies and to forget that your real true to life girlfriend is there with you. So, this is a lovely way to make your girlfriend happy. Kiss gently, look deep into her eyes and soon any awkwardness will be replaced by love and longing . Become more aware of the present moment and take lovemaking to a whole new level.

3. Giving in with good grace will surprise her and make your girlfriend happy.

Living with someone inevitably means having to compromise and do things that you'd rather not do. So the next time she wants you to attend her boring "work do", don't just grit your teeth, but look for ways that can be actually enjoyable. Even though you might think the company is not your scene, if it means a good meal and drinks then you can make it a pleasurable experience. You create your own reality.  If you act as if you're enjoying yourself, soon you will really start to believe it. Not only will you make your girlfriend happy she will also be grateful and this will often mean she will go the extra mile for you in return.

4. Spend ten minutes chatting over your day with your girlfriend.

Instead of big dramatic gestures – which become hard to repeat- try to set up good relationship habits. The most important one is checking in with each other when you get home. Leave the starting of dinner and checking messages and emails for later. A few moments spent sharing the highs and lows can prevent misunderstandings. Believing your partner's bad moods are due to something you did, rather than a bad day at the office can ruin a whole evening together. The more details you can share in your daily chat, the more you can share in each other's triumphs. If you've spent years with the reply of 'Fine' when your girlfriend asks you about your day, then the best way to make your girlfriend happy is to share some snippet of gossip or humorous anecdote from your day. A good tip is to sit down and eat together -without the TV on-and allow the natural rhythms of conversation to kick in.

Take your relationship to a higher level. Do these four simple things often and they will soon become a natural part of your ever deepening relationship.  

For more tips on how to make your girfriend happy see 500secretsaboutgirls.com.

A shock most of us have to deal with at some point in our lives is the realization that our loved one may be having an affair.
Loving somebody with a lot of passion and devotion can often raise expectations of mutual adoration. You will expect your partner to have the same feelings for you. But circumstances may change and you may have to deal with the fact that your partner is having an affair behind your back.

While the realization may be heart breaking and extremely painful, you will have to cope with it.
Life goes on.

Through colleagues, relatives or friends, you might get to know that your partner is having an affair. Before you jump to conclusions, remember that good friendship and casual companionship between your partner and another can easily be mistaken for something as serious as having an affair. While getting information in advance is of great help, you should not base your judgment around what people think or speculate.

Find out if your partner has found a new love or is just having an affair

You need to know how seriously your spouse is involved in the relationship. This is critical because if your partner is truly in love with another person, you will have to have a serious rethink about your future together.
Sometimes, people engage in casual affairs to break the monotony that may have overtaken their romantic lives. There is an innate thrill of romance deep within each of us.

Men and women are vastly different beings

For men, and especially men who wield power, there is the thrill of the hunt! Beasts!!
For some women, flirting to attract attention is innate and deliciously satisfying. Hussies!!

Such affairs are often not serious and may not progress beyond a couple of dates and movies.
There is no denying that this time will be an emotional trauma and can leave you with feelings of despair.
But, all is not lost and people before us have faced the same issues and often quite successfully.

Remember, if your partner is having an affair “It’s not your fault!”

Sure, sometimes there are things you both could and should be doing to build and strengthen your relationship and if ignored may build some resentment. So the first step would be to talk. Often as the flames of passion subside, we talk less to each other. Life is full of distractions and the less talking there is the more chance of disaffection creeping in. Talk should be about our feelings, hopes, wishes and plans … not just about the mundane things that we all face on a daily basis.

A broken relationship usually has severe costs if there are shared finances and children so it makes good sense to try and restore the partnership to better days. Effort from both parties is required and often outside help is essential. A counsellor for instance, can bring both of you together and make things much easier.

When a relationship hits a rocky patch, you may not be in the right frame of mind to work on it together. An impartial third party can start the process and remind you of the steps to follow.
Number 1 step is to remove blame and work on your partner’s needs.

While it is true that the thought of your partner having an affair is crushing for you, you don’t have to overreact to make situations much worse. You just have to know to take the matter up with your partner and get it resolved before it’s too late. Just ask yourself whether you want to continue with the relationship or not, and then take the necessary steps.

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It is no secret that long distance relationships are tough; this is why long distance relationship tips are important. Before you and your partner separate and go long distance, for whatever reason, you should read up on how to manage a long distance relationship. Be aware that separation can be a very positive force in the strengthening of permanent bonds between a couple.

The first tip that I have found for people that has worked over and over again is staying in constant communication with your loved one. When my father had to go to Atlanta for a year to work, he and my mother kept in close communication through phone, e-mail, Facebook and letters. This was five years ago, and there were not as many communication options as there are now available. This should show you that there are ways to stay in communication with your loved one without being there in person.

You have many different communication options available to you. One such option is Skype, which is simple to set up. It is a website and video combination where you can actually see your spouse or partner with the help of a video camera. It is a free service as well. You also have the option of Facebook, Myspace, e-mail, telephone, and even snail mail, amongst thousands of others. And traditional mail is perfect for personalized surprises.

Second tip is to stay honest and faithful to your partner. This is key in any relationship but especially important while you are so far apart. Be open to each other about all the feelings that you're having and be careful not to cheat on your spouse or partner. While websites, radio stations, and other places are often telling you it's okay to cheat and are even promoting affairs, it's important to keep in mind that this is not the normal way to live, and, I've found, one of the fastest ways to destroy trust in any relationship. Loneliness may leave us vulnerable and temptation may be just around the corner. You may need to set some rules based on your partner's needs.

Third; Send your partner or spouse gifts. This is a great, subtle way of reminding your partner that you love them even when they are so far away. If they are living in a military base or a college dorm, it may be a good idea to check and see if there are any restrictions to what they are able to receive for gifts.

I've found it's a good idea to talk to your spouse or partner and ask them what type of gifts they like. Are they into chocolate? It may not be best to send them a chocolate bar in the mail, but you can certainly send them a gift card to a nearby place that sells chocolate or their favourite goodies. Even a personally designed little love card will do wonders to warm the heart of your true love.

Absence makes the heart grow fonder and a special surprise visit is one of the best long distance relationship tips I can offer. An unexpected visit from your dear one after a time apart is a great way to fall in love all over again. It will remind you why you are keeping yourself faithful for your partner, and will remind you what it was that you loved about them in the first place.

There are many more long distance relationship tips than the ones that are here, but they will be variations on the main points I have covered. It is important for you to be aware of your true feelings towards your partner and take the extra effort required to strengthen the bonds between you.

Find more ways to keep your relationship strong and happy.

Some simple romantic ideas

If you are planning a romantic gift for your partner, think and think carefully. The rewards for effort can be long lasting. Think about which customs and traditions are meaningful in your relationship.

We all love surprises and little heartfelt gifts.

I find it really isn't all that difficult to shop for my partner. I am on the lookout at all times for romantic gift ideas and not just a week before the birthday or anniversary. I make sure I am listening to what she says.

Daily conversations will give away tips as to how you can surprise the one you love. Tune in for clues that will slip out in chats.

Observe your partner's buying habits and indulgences. What are their hobbies and interests. What do they watch and read. What do they sigh about? "Oh I wish………!" If your partner mentions something they would like, write it down.

Care is needed so you do not lose anything in translation.
And for us mere men trying so hard to please our little lady, my best advice is to think!!! And think again… before you do!

Remember the time you visited friends. She may have expressed a wish for that special bread machine. If you decide that is to be the gift, then surprise her one Sunday morning with freshly squeezed juice, eggs Benedict and home-made cinnamon buns!

As a general rule however appliances and other such impersonal gifts are best for those out of the blue unexpected days and not anniversaries!

Your man may have expressed an interest in an off road vehicle to find a quiet getaway. Your budget might better afford a weekend away to a romantic catered hideaway with no cooking and cleaning. Surprise him!

Romantic ideas for a long and loving relationship

If you are interested in a long and loving relationship, romantic ideas must feature prominently in your thinking. Maintain a diary of your listenings and observations. When you are planning a gift for the love of your life, you will have lots of ready-made ideas.

Remember, a personally made or collected item can have far more impact than a box or bottle from the store.

Often, it is the little things that mean so much.

Here is a simple romantic idea.

On a cold winter's day put the towel in the drier when your partner is in the shower. What is nicer than your beloved wrapping a toasty warm towel around you as you step out of a lovely warm shower. That may become a family tradition!

Break away from the flock. Remember that it is the thought that counts. On Valentine's Day and any other gift giving occasion make sure your present comes from the heart and not from just the wallet.

Using some of the romantic ideas we have explored, the next time your beloved opens one of your gifts, they won't be saying "You shouldn't have!" and really meaning it.

Here are lots more ideas.

Had an argument? Want to get your lover back?

Do you remember the days not so long ago when we would eagerly check the deep dark recesses of our mail box and hope there was a letter from a dear one hiding in there. And the lifting of the spirit when that wish came true. The handwriting on the envelope was often the first clue of something enjoyable to come. Like carefully unwrapping  an expensive  chocolate and wondering with ever increasing pleasure at the contents within. And if our wish continued to unfold, then, as you carefully opened the letter, it may have been something like…..

My Dearest

I awoke this morning with my heart overflowing with joy. You are such an amazing woman.

I had the most wonderful time with you. Your touch makes me tremble and your look warms my heart. I look at you and thank God for his wisdom. Being close to you fills me with a contentment I cannot describe. The gentle touch of your lips on my cheek fills me with a deep and insatiable longing. I find myself unable to focus on anything other than the memory of our warm embrace. I am impatiently counting the hours, minutes and seconds before our next meeting.

I think back to the circumstances of our surprise meeting and feel from deep within my heart that there are unimaginable adventures and fun times ahead for us. So it is with an impatient heart that I finish my message of love and with a deep love and longing resume counting the hours, minutes and seconds before our next meeting.

I love you

Today, things are different… you may get a ring on your phone and

To my bbw

O, lil babe O U@ My lov I wz rong 2 try 2 lov 2 knw wel dat my lov wz Jst4U My babe INY 2 cll my own n nvr do rong 2 hld n myn yr lil h& IL knw 2 sn dat ll S so gr@ plz, plz hld my h& My dEr I wz rong 2 try 2 lov 2 n now IKT my lov wz Jst4U

(translation … far below)

Or you may get a beep from your computer that tells you your loved one is online and ready to talk. Now there is nothing wrong with that for not only can you talk, but with a little vidcam you can see your beloved.

Or a beep from your computer or tablet informing “you have mail”.

You can read and download or store in a folder, but an email is somehow lacking energy. Unlike a letter, the stationery hasn’t been selected, handled, touched with meaningful words and feelings, folded, inserted, stamped, posted and delivered.

Back before this amazing technology, to get your lover back, you had to write. Writing was an art that was learned and developed over the years and poems and sonnets of yesteryear even today, cause us to use our minds to create picture images and emotions. This by Elizabeth Barrett Browning to her lover Robert.

"How do I love thee?  Let me count the ways.
I love thee to the depth and breadth and height
My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight
For the ends of Being and ideal Grace.
I love thee to the level of everyday’s
Most quiet need, by sun and candlelight.
I love thee freely, as men strive for Right;
I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise.
I love thee with the passion put to use
In my old griefs, and with my childhood’s faith.
I love thee with a love I seemed to lose
With my lost saints,—I love thee with the breath,
Smiles, tears, of all my life!—and, if God choose,
I shall but love thee better after death."

There is nothing stronger than human imagination. When your mind has to conjure up thoughts and images they are ever so powerful and strongly and indelibly coupled with emotions. So if you have had a breakup and want to get your lover back, novel communication may be the answer.

Perhaps you could try a little old fashioned poetry and snail mail (letter by postman)!

Translation

"To my big beautiful woman
Oh, little darling  oh where  are you
My love  I was wrong to  try to love two
Know well that my love was just for you
My darling I need you to call my own and never do wrong
To hold in mine your little hand I'll know too soon
That all is so grand, please, please hold my hand
My dear I was wrong to try to love two and now I know that my love was just for you"

 Thanks to Maurice Williams

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